Motivated by Love, Not by Lists
Have you ever found yourself doing something simply because you felt you had to, rather than because you wanted to? Maybe you felt like you had to laugh at a joke that was not all that funny. Or perhaps you had to attend a party that you really didn't want to go to but you felt obligated to go to keep up appearances. In relationships, we usually change for one of two reasons: love or fear . Think back to the infamous moment at the Oscars when Will Smith reacted to a joke about his wife. If you don't remember Chris Rock was doing a stand up bit and happened to say something in jest about Will Smith's wife. The crowd was laughing, Will Smith was laughing everyone was laughing except Will Smiths wife. What Chris Rock said was not really off color or all that bad, but when Will Smith saw that his wife was not pleased. Will Smith went up to Chris Rock and smacked him in his face. People debated his motives—was it out of a f...